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Post by ~¤LilacSky¤~ on Mar 9, 2010 8:55:53 GMT -5
hello there again, very interesting story and it shows the strength you have for sure, when you say your mind was gone and such, obvisiouly it was there more than you know. thank you for your support with my mom's battle, I need all the positive insight as well at this time because shes all I had/have as a parent and if im not strong and positive for her who is gonna be.
I really enjoyed reading about your past and what brought you to came to be with martial arts.I think its pretty awesome that you turned your life around and your self and are teaching others from that.
I have a respect for folks who can teach others from what they learned in such a intricate way it seems to shine on everyone and also giving you positive feedback.
and my mom and all her light that surrounds her I just pray something good happens to her or that she can endure this life long enough to be at peace when shes ready at least , ya know. I still have a few questions about energy work, Ive never done it however one of the admins on here at one time was heavily into qigoing and sent me a book called stillness, I was fascinated by it because it displayed martial arts as more as a religion type thing which was pretty cool. if you can direct me to any energy work books or any sort that would be awesome. Im looking to read something new anyway, I havent been reading alot and I kinda left my spirituality at bay for a while now. Im very interested in martial arts as well, I met a judo teacher a while back that offered me free sessions, however I didnt take them for a few reasons haha. anyways its a pleasure to have you on the forums and your insight has opened my eyes. thank you! ;D
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Post by rm2013 on Mar 9, 2010 11:19:52 GMT -5
I highly recommend: Pranic Healing Choa Kok Sui Lam Kam Chuens books: The way of harmony the way of energy The Art of Chi Kung: Making the Most of Your Vital Energy ~ Wong Kiew Kit Qigong Empowerment: A Guide to Medical, Taoist, Buddhist, Wushu Energy Cultivation www.amazon.com/Qigong-Empowerment-Medical-Buddhist-Cultivation/dp/1889659029/ref=pd_sim_b_9The Way of Qigong: The Art and Science of Chinese Energy Healing by Ken Cohen Treating Cancer with Herbs: An Integrative Approach by Dr. Michael Tierra BEWARE OF USING HERBS WITHOUT PROFESSIONAL GUIDANCE! Rich PS Thanks for the kind words:) There are others, but they are quite technical and come from the Publishing house of Shanghai college of traditional chinese medicine. There are also a number from the foreign language press in Beijing.
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Post by ~¤LilacSky¤~ on Mar 12, 2010 1:23:16 GMT -5
well thank you very much, I greatly appreciate your help! however i got some bad news regarding my mom, she has brain cancer again and is not sure if she wants the treatments... Im in dire need of some kind of treatments, I dont know waht to do seems shes giving up.
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Post by rm2013 on Mar 18, 2010 0:23:46 GMT -5
With greatest respect; my advice is that she is making her final choice to die on her terms, and not undergo the pains and illness that come with therapy.
if she has had made up her mind, then YOU must accept it.
If YOU need help, find a counselor to guide you through the death and grief process.
I wish you and she, the very best.
Rich
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Post by ~~section8... on Mar 18, 2010 10:58:20 GMT -5
And with my greatest respect, Rich: there is a great difference between "being ready to die" and "losing hope." The former is a sense of peace and completion in life and a readiness to move into a different realm. The latter is feeling that dying is the only option you have.
Your argument is almost synonymous with saying that you should accept someone's decision to commit suicide just because that person "has made up his or her mind" to die.
I do not wish to argue with you, Rich, I'm just saying that more empathy than advice & explanation is required in this situation.
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Post by rm2013 on Mar 21, 2010 18:13:42 GMT -5
Hi, thanks for your view.
Someone committing suicide and someone dying of cancer are 2 separate entities. Suicide, when done out of purely personal motive, without psychological deviation, affect, or incurable illness, is a selfish act borne out of a sense of desperation and hopelessness with a resignation to themselves that nothing will change in their life to improve it otherwise. They simply do not wish to live any longer, or take any steps to improve their lot.
My sister did this after having been in drug rehab 3x, and having slipped into the cruel mists of crack addiction over 20 years time. She simply gave up, and did not want to start over again. Her note said as much. So she stabbed herself to death.
I know this firsthand and personally in both areas. Those dying of cancer, and who are ready to meet their end are very brave people who do not wish to give up on life, but who understand that their situation is terminal, and desire to die with dignity.
My Uncle was of the above view, and died in his sleep.
Some do not wish to try and prolong life by any means, either because they have suffered from such treatment in the past, or do not wish to be a burden upon their family any longer.
Others wish to fight to the bitter end, drawing out their end, fighting tooth and nail for just one more minute of breath. Dying sick from the chemo, radiation, or adverse reactions to whatever surgery or other heroic measures they deemed necessary for their survival.
My reply to lilac-sky was not terse. It may have been a bit blunt, but that is my way. I am sure she understood my meaning and intent, which in no way was meant to cause any harm.
Have a great week!
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Post by ~¤LilacSky¤~ on Mar 30, 2010 7:37:36 GMT -5
wow,................
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Post by ~¤LilacSky¤~ on Mar 30, 2010 7:42:44 GMT -5
I agree with both of you..and my ma decided to fight it, cuz I cried my skull out on the phone to her and told her she needs to fight, but at the same time I realized how she feels, she feels horrible all the time, thats no way to live, and my mom deserves a paradise but shes always sick and stuff, so I realized shes prolly ready to go dealing with all that torment and suffering, I just feel awful all the time and I know she feels sick and suff...and I just wanna ease her pain if anything, and i try laughter, but she has brain cancer so shes not all their so its difficult.... ugh I just want my mom back
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Post by rm2013 on Apr 9, 2010 11:32:51 GMT -5
Dearest Lilac-Sky;
You must remember that your Mom, like all of our mom's and dad's, and other loved ones who have slipped the surly bonds of Earth, will always remain alive in your memories, your heart, your feelings, and your thoughts. In that, one gains immortality.
As long as there are other relatives alive, she will always be alive in the same way.
With Loving intent and thoughts;
Rich
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Post by ~¤LilacSky¤~ on Apr 12, 2010 7:48:03 GMT -5
awww, thank you sweety very much. I cried a lil reding that but your right and I have to have to trust that,.. since dying is a natural rythum of life, its not so bad, and I told my mom that when she go's the gods better have something awesome waiting for her lol they better have horses and dogs and awesome food and the house of her dreams and maybe a rebirth to life into a loving family. and she laughed so at least I can make her feel good still:)
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