heart vs head

[~¤LilacSky¤~]

for a long time now I have found that sometimes it is impossible to differantiate between my head and my heart, my question is how do you tell the differance and what kinds of things help you to know the differance, as for me I usually take a break and withdraw if I need to figure out somehting in my life, but I have found that sometimes situations in life need attention than at that very second and it is hard to choose since I am being pulled by my head and heart. I would like to hear your opinions on this guys. thanks

[Sleepwalker]

Unfortunately I use my head more than my heart. In the past I used my heart in a certain situation and found myself up the creek without a paddle, so I have developed a sort of block against using my heart very often.

I think it's common to have trouble telling which of the two are correct. I think you should follow whatever your instinct tells you to, unless you will get in a lot of trouble doing that. Taking a break and sorting out the signals both are sending you is a good way to figure out something, like you said.

Normally I choose what makes sense at the split second decisions, though I shouldn't do that as much.

[Gav]

Hi Ronni - Sleepwalker,

It is tough sometimes to tell the difference between the hearts desires and the heads.

Perhaps a reason would be that usually they are just two conflicting opinions about the same thing, either the thing we have to do against the thing we would like to do, or maybe the harsh reality and a softer fantasy.

We often use the term think with your heart, and I often refer to leading with your heart, "If your heart is not in your path, your intention will fail - Carlos Castaneda”, but if we really think about it the heart felt thoughts could be just a metaphor for the things that we secretly desire but logic and reason forbid us to express.

To go with heart then would be to do what is really true to our inner wishes - which may not always be a good plan for life - hence the confusion I guess.

I personally believe in a philosophy of balance and within that I find it important not to hear one of our inner voices over another but instead to unite them and remove the conflict, heart and head working together so to speak, so that we are really directed and intentional in what we do as it is what we desire and also a logical decision.

Easier said than done I know, but as I see it, and up to as far as I have developed, experienced it first hand, the heart has to come first as it is the lower layer of thought.

Listen to your heart through the aid of meditation and quiet reflection, and then once you know what you really desire begin to attune your logical approach to that heart felt thinking so that what we eventually have is a logic that helps us better achieve and maintain our inner wishes, rather than conflicts against them.

To be all heart or to be all logic would be to unbalance oneself, and to continue to live in this way for any length of time would surely unbalance your life and mostly your social existence.

Kind Regards
Gav

[~¤LilacSky¤~]

Sleepwalker I agree we should trust our instincts above all.I try to do this the most and let my feelings guide me, but I have found that sometimes logic and practical thinking should be combined.
Like Gav said I think having a balance is important, but it is hard to do, I agree that we need to look within sometimes and silence ourselves in order to find what it is we truely want or feel, and let that build our thoughts and where we wish to go...
since all changes occur within us first,I try to listen to my inner self as much as I can following my heart, which will eventually manifest in the physical through my thought forms, and bringing them together that way.
I don't know its still something I am working on, since my head seems to create illusions, and also creates feelings, I am confused sometimes due to this.

[RubyRose]

going by heart that's the way to live!
it might be good to use head more often... well i think that you live this life only once so go there and live!
thats why i study energy. to find out the very deepest living!

[Holly]

I would say that I tend to follow my heart more than my head.

But this could lead to trouble occaionally.

Say that you lived with a violent partner. In your heart you might love this person and you could live in hope that you could change them but your head would tell you the sensible thing, to get out before they kill you.

So I would say, follow your heart on most occaions but if it means putting yourself in danger, then listen to the warning singnals in your brain before you make your decision.

Love Hol.

[mykodd]

my only concern with the head/heart debate is when
love becomes blind and the heart makes one stay
when the brain should be shouting go.

[~¤LilacSky¤~]

yep, I agree mykodd, because sometimes the heart should not rule the head, if it does we end up usually making a sacrifice..this has been true for myself..